We have met many people through, or I should say – because of Alex. Most of these people have been kind and supportive, as I have described in my past entries. But today, I want to vent about some of the frustrations I have had over the years. I do not have any particular reason to vent, except to let you know that life with a child with special needs is not always a bed of roses.
I really do not have much of a temper, and I try to practice the "wait 24 hours" rule before I respond to anything that I perceive to be negative. However, as my kids will tell you (actually anyone that knows me) - I am not perfect - despite my incorrect opinion to the contrary. Sometimes I get so frustrated and angry at people's ignorance and lack of sensitivity that I can not help but respond in the negative. I have learned this is really not a good tactic – but I am really trying!
Following are my top twelve irritating questions/statements:
I will not share my angry responses to these first five questions I received from some of Alex’s past educators - let’s just say they never came up again:
- Why should I teach her math? - she can use a calculator
- Why should I teach her to tie her shoes? - there is velcro
- Why should I teach her to read beyond a third grade level? - she is going to live in assisted living anyway
- Why does she need more speech? - she can talk
- Can you come to the dance? - Alex needs supervision
- How old is she?
- What is her name?
- What school does she go to?
- Does she have any brothers or sisters?
- Only you and John could raise a child like Alex
- God only gives you what you can handle
- You are a great mother
Yes, sometimes I get so frustrated I have to hold my breath and count to ten. But mostly I remember all the great people we have met and exhale with thankfulness.